Tuesday, February 07, 2012

Tucson

So the shows are coming to an end (only one day left of The Best Bead Show) and its time to wrap it up and take stock of the whole experience. I've been seeing some posts and updates about negativity, not making a lot of money, people behaving clique-ishly, how the economy is bringing out the worst in folks and how its not fun anymore.

I have an observation that I want to make in reaction to these negative comments floating around about how the Tucson Shows have become unpleasant. I think I am more than qualified in putting in my two cents, since I've done the shows since the early days, when there were only TWO bead shows.

All gatherings of people will attract a few folks that love to talk, that love to bemoan their situation, love to cause a stink and some really love the spotlight no matter if its good or bad. That's life. You can find this behavior in schools, doll shows, dog shows, bird shows, comic cons, art shows, retreats and bead shows. I've attended hundreds and hundreds of gatherings and its always the same. Here's what makes a difference: when people stop the negativity. It sounds simple, but the reality is, you are in control of who you spend your time with, where you shop, where you eat and you can say 'well, since that person is a buddy of mine, let's talk about something else. Where'd you find those amazing stones?'. I've learned from experience that if you nip the 'neg' in the bud, people usually get the hint.

When I was starting out, I received some good advice from a successful vendor I was set up next to, that was doing amazing. They told me to always try and have a great time, even if you aren't selling, its raining, you're hungry, tired, whatever. People attend shows to have a good time and find amazing things. If your a huge downer, no one is going to stick around to see what you have. If things aren't going well, I give myself a mental shake and think about what IS going great, like making new contacts, seeing old friends and looking at all the great art shown around me. Things always improve.

We set up booths at three shows this year and we did very well. We always have an amazing time. Really, how can you not love seeing all the beads, specimens and precious stones gathered from every corner of the earth? You kind of have to try and not enjoy yourself. Even someone as jaded as I am has a blast. Its a wonderful gathering every bead artist and collector should attend at least once. Don't be influenced into not going because someone had a bad show, or is resentful of the success of others. I look forward to it every year and have yet to be disappointed.

12 comments:

Kathy Van Kleeck said...

Yes! Absolutely and well said. I always get something out of every show, there are always opportunities for things to be enjoyed, gleaned, shared, learned. Thanks for the light!

Nicole Valentine-Rimmer said...

It was my first year and I had a blast! Love your post and your attitude, negativity just ain't worth the time.

beth hemmila & hint jewelry said...

This is a great tip! I'm glad you had fun and enjoyed meeting new and old friends.

Cynthia said...

My former career was in sales and I've worked many trade shows in that capacity over the years. You're absolutely correct, you can make the experience a positive one just by smiling at someone who appears to be having a crummy time. Changing the subject or offering a sincere compliment often dissipates the negativity.

Sharon Driscoll said...

Well said Cynthia! DH and I did art show for over 27 years...yes, there were very "high" times but even in the low ones it was fun. Life is Good.

SummersStudio said...

Well said! Indeed we do have choice and life is absolutely what you make of it.

Jenny said...

Like begets like. Sounds simple, but it is so true. You are going to get back from the Universe what you offer, the same will be drawn to you like a magnet. You decide if that will be negative or positive. Glad you and yours had a great time, Cynthia!

Sabine said...

Bravo, you! How could someone as creative as you and your family not have a great time and attract more positive energy at the same time. Good for you!

Did you take the kids?

Andrew Thornton said...

We had a great show! Sure... my feet hurt, my back ached and I would have liked more time to look around and have bathroom and lunch breaks, but meeting everyone and seeing the gears turning in their heads and the creativity flowing makes up for a lot of that. It was a true pleasure and I'm glad to be apart of it.

Jean said...

way to go, Cynthia! I love your way of thinking!!! BIG HUGS!

jean

Gina Chalfant said...

So well said! If only everyone knew and applied this valuable lesson. Attitude can do so much to avert negativity! One word of kindness can change someone on track to having a awful day. We hold so much power within us.

Christine said...

I am going for the first time next season, and I'm really excited... and that is great advice for vendors about being up beat... and I would say not only in person but online too. xoxo Christine